Challenging Times in Romance Land
Romance is a tricky thing. I looked up an article today to educate myself about how to more effectively communicate my desires for my partner to do certain “tidying up” things around the apartment more often. Why must you spend the time looking up such trivial things on the Internet, you ask me in boredom?? Well, it is because, as I have been constantly reminded by my partner, I come off as insulting whenever I do it “naturally/on my own”–without the help of strangers who write Self-Help columns for people with relationship roadblocks to constantly jump over. People like me.
All I want is for my partner to DO these things…NATURALLY…like I do. Is this too much to ask in life? Say for example, when I see that the contents of our recyclables container are about to spill over…I take it out. I recently began to take it very personally and began feeling insulted that I am always (except once) the one to take out the recyclables. I began telling myself, Well, there is no concern for keeping our apartment tidy, now, is there? or Well…someone must certainly be impressed by how the recycling container never gets too full. WOW.”
So, thankfully the first article I pulled up was this great piece:
http://www.deliberateblog.com/2012/03/18/can-i-use-loa-to-get-my-husband-to-take-out-the-trash/
And now I realize that I have been equating the lack of household chore participation with a lack of care and/or respect for me. How terrible. 😦 Now all I need is the follow-up article that discusses lots more tips and tricks to use in order for me to change my thinking. Wish me luuuuuuuck.
“The world only goes ’round by misunderstanding.” –Charles Boudelaire
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